The world is a weird place.

The world is a weird place.

It has a weird way of showing you things. 

It has a weird way of showing you that you should tell your loved ones you love them as much as possible.
It has a weird way of showing how love and respect work. 
It has a weird way of showing you that you are loved.
It has a weird way of teaching you lessons.
It has a weird way of making you a better individual.
It has a weird way of showing you hatred and pain. 
And it has a weird way of showing you that unfortunately most of these things you have to learn and understand by going through some pretty bad times. 

But, going through and tackling these things, no matter how bad they get, makes you into the person you are today. And for me, thats someone I'm so damn proud of. 

Ive never been great at speaking about my emotions or how I feel. Im a strong person. A really strong person. But i'm not just a person. Im a really strong friend, best friend, Sister, cousin, Daughter, Niece, Granddaughter & employee. 

Its taken me 20 years to realise this. However i'm now not afraid to say i'm struggling. 

Im really struggling. I don't like disappointing people, or letting people down, or not making time for people. I don't like crying in front of people because i'm there to pick people up, not to let them see me in this way. I have issues and struggles just like everybody else.  Some of these things people might look at as trifling, however some people have a fear of the dark and some don't. Think about that. I'm battling things that people don't know because I don't want them demons to define who I am & I promise to not let them win but sometimes, just sometimes, I hold my hands up to admit I am struggling. 

Sometimes the weight of the world just gets a bit too much. Which is why I chose to express my feelings and emotion in this way. Im not asking for sympathy, I'm not asking for for someone to drop everything for me. What I am asking for is to make sure whoever is reading this, no matter who you are, please check on the 'strong' people you know. Because they may not have found their release. They might just need a bit of support or someone to listen to them. 

Before its too late. 

Lots of love 

Megz x 


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#selfcaresunday

Preach.

She's back.

Sooooo its been a while. Life, work and thoughts sort of took over but I'm in a good place so what better way to radiate positivity than with a new 'inspirational' blog post for you all to read and hopefully take a bit self care tips away with you.

Going through the year tackling work and social life, I've found its so important to have time out and take care of yourself.

Now self care can be in many different forms depending on your own personal preferences. It could be a gym session, it could be reading a book, reading articles or could simply be having a bath and in bed for 8pm. Unfortunately working in the hospitality industry this isn't always the case.

Sunday is the day for me to set up your goals and targets for the following week. Budget your finances, set in stone any plans with friends or loved ones throughout the week,running errands, completing tasks and even scheduling in an all important food shop.

Sunday is the day for me to wash my hair. Sounds really gross however washing my hair is literally the bane of my life! 1, it takes about 48367 hours to wash blow dry and straighten the frizz out of it. 2, its always so luggy and soooo irratting to brush and 3, to put it quite frankly, I cant be bothered.

Sunday is the day you fill your self up with a home made Sunday roast. Yorkshire puds, chicken, gravy all the veg and stuffing!!!!! Making my mouth water writing about it.

Sunday is the day for a whole lot of self loving and actual 'selfcare'. Face masks, hair masks, manicures, moisturizer, teeth whitening, whatever tickles your fancy.

My faves: Lush Butterball £2.95 | Law & Order SVU | The best hair mask | Skincare Go To | And all the best comfort foods.


In conclusion, remember to take care of yourself. Your physical and mental health should always be a priority. People may come and go but its important to look after who you are first.

Lots of Love

Megz x

P.S please check out my new page above 'Mother Meg' all is explained.

Happy Galentines Day

*disclaimer, okay this was meant to go live on valentines day, however the time ran away and its now going live today. Just use your imagination that its still valentines day. Also small weight loss update, ive lost 11lbs this week?!?!?! ahhhh how crazy. dont get me wrong, the gym has killed me off & its different not eating 24/7 but im so happy and cant wait to keep you all updated on further weight loss!*

Happy Valentines Day my loves. I hope you all, no matter what your doing feel the love today, tomorrow and forever onwards. This post is a 'Gal' appreciation post. or 'Woman appreciation' you might call it.

Yet again I'm spending valentines day alone. The bigger social media becomes, the more you sit and question if its ok to be alone on 14th February. Well here's your answer, yes it bloody is! When you're surrounded by amazing people, you don't think about it like that. I'm a very loving person. I literally love with all my heart. No matter if i've known you 2 minutes or 2 years. This has had its issues in the past but I always see the good in people and sometimes all people need is some love and appreciation. I know I sometimes do.

What better way than to show the main women in my life some love and appreciation than to do it on valentines day. In a society where woman empowerment is becoming stronger and stronger and some of the most successful people in life are women, heres my way of saying thank you to those who have impacted who I am today and made me the woman I am. Why sit and tear each other down, when we can build a force to be reckoned with. Who's with me?

My Mother- You've been thrown so many of life's curveballs and yet every time, you get back up, fighting till the end. You honestly are a mum in a million. I love your dry humour, your dedication to your career, the love you have for us all, the happiness you bring everyday, the care and support you give me every time you can see that i'm down, the many life lessons that you've learnt, the way you look at all my friends and treat them as your own and lastly for being the bestest, bestest friend I could ask for. I hope I become half the mum you are.

My Sister - Now if you'd of met me and my sister about 5 years ago, you would honestly believe that we hated each other. At one point I thought I did. But gradually over the years, we've both seen that actually, I probably love her with all my heart, more than i've loved anyone before. All I want is to protect her, even though she's only 16, she's been through things I could never imagine and fought them like its nothing, like its just part of everyday life & not once has she sat there and thought that its anything major. Your strength, positivity, self belief, ambition, love and care for others, funny-witt, fashion sense, style and your pure beauty has inspired me in so many ways. Im so proud to be your big sister.

My Friends - I have so many amazing girlfriends. From girls I've known from school 7 years ago, to some of the bestest friends who I only met last year. Before I ramble on, I love each and every one of them. They're all so unique in different ways. From the love they give, to the humour, to the support they give and how they pick me up when I fall. I simply couldn't do life without them. End of. Friends really do make the world go round. Please don't any of you change.

My Female Managers - Sounds weird but you completely take the women influencers who work with you everyday/every month/every year for granted. Ive worked with and alongside so many female bosses who I can only thank for getting me to where I am today. Don't get me wrong, I'm no where near how far I wish to be, but without them I wouldn't half be where I am now. From the first female supervisor who asked my big boss to promote me, to the female managers who have helped my work place over the years and taught me so many things about how to be a great leader, to the girls i've had the pleasure of working alongside(who are now some of my best friends) and finally, to my manager now. Your all amazing at what you do and I'm glad to have been alongside you at some point or working with you now to smash 2019!! We can do this! 💪

My Female Family Members - From Cousins, Aunties, Godmums and ladies who I class as family. I have grown and learnt so many things from you all throughout the years. Whether its how you deal with family issues or even how to drink a bottle of wine without a hangover the next morning, I thank you all for everything you've taught me. I hope you all realise the great impact you've had on my life.

Little Mix - Now these girls are a boss ass girl group!!!!! Ive never really took interest to any girlband or artist over the years however Ive never 'fangirled' as hard as I did when Perrie rang me on the phone over a live 'twitcam' in 2012. ( you can actually find it on youtube, however please don't embarrass me like that ) I love the message they all promote. From LGBT rights, to looking however you want, to being happy in the skin your in and being proud of your background and where you are from. These girls are the ultimate role models. And I hope in years to come, my children or the younger generation have girls to look up to like this. Plus, their singles are absolute BANGERS! Bring on London with my huns in November to watch them at the 02.

So there we have it. 'Happy Galentines Day' I hope this has made you realise how special the women in your life are. Make sure they know it.

Lots of Love

Megz x

2019 Here I come...

First of all, thank you for the love on my first post, i appreciate every single one of you. This post is so you can get to know more about me and my goals for 2019. I hope you enjoy ready and can join me for the ride. 

This topic is a sore subject for me. Something that I’ve really struggled with talking about growing up. I’ve always been a big girl, the tallest in my class, the one who looks 5 times older than she is, the one who gets starred at walking through college and the one who hides behind everyone in group photos. The list goes on. I’ve never really spoke about how that affected me mentally. It knocked my confidence and its only now that I’ve come to realize how it affected my mental health. Period. From 2014/2017 I was never in photos, id always hide. I never wanted the fear of someone seeing the photo and saying ‘ewww look at her’ or ‘seen the size of her’. I never went to parties at school, again because of photos & never feeling comfortable shopping for new clothes (maternity clothes can I just add) to wear that didn’t make me look 25 at the age of 16. I never went to school or college as my uniform didn’t fit me & I didn’t want the embarrassment of buying bigger sizes than I already was. When the girls used to get changed in the changing rooms, id hide in the toilets and sweat and struggle to change back into my uniform that was too small. One because it was embarrassing and two because I didn't want people seeing my size 14 body. (at the age of 15) Id have comments sniggered behind my back, people staring when trying to get/fit in a ride at a theme park, always the last in the PE fitness test because let’s face it, the fat girl couldn’t run. I hated the conversations about finding a boyfriend or who I was seeing because how could I sit there and explain that no-one is attracted to this. This was only ever my fault. I got too comfortable. I tried and tried fad diet after diet. I can remember not eating for 2 days and celebrating in my room that i'd made an achievement and I was finally going to be skinny. I can remember eating a mento, a mint mento, and thinking I’ve put 2 stone on. This happened for 3 years (that I can remember); along with other childhood traumas, I think I blocked the rest from my memory.

(2016 - 2018)

This is something I still struggle with day to day. I struggle making an effort when I feel so low. I struggle with the concept of moving and trying out new places because of the routine of fitting in somewhere and finding people who accept me for how I look.

The first way humans deal with emotion or trauma is to comfort eat and this is something I admit I do every time. I was never shown any other way. Im a closed book, I bottle things up for 6 months, then explode. Its how I do it every time. well now its time for a change. I'm ready for a change. I'm tired. Literally tired all the time. I'm sick of wearing the same clothes because no other ones fit me, I'm sick of having a wardrobe full of clothes that don't fit me. Its time for me to kick 2019 in the ass. 

Now I know to some people how this can look. ‘why don’t you just go on a diet’ why don’t you just lose weight’.  I know there are people who are way worse of than me and are fighting critical illness’ everyday but this is something so much more for me than going on a diet. After trying and trying so many times I don’t know how to anymore. I don’t know what’s healthy. I expect to see results over night and its not that easy. I think by not eating for a week I’ll have accomplished something but I’m so so wrong. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that by speaking more about it, I can come to terms with it. 2019 is my year, as I’ve said so many times. I want to end the year being a happy, HEALTHY, fighting fit, young woman with the most confidence. And I want you all to join me. Its going to take time for me find something that works for me and something that I can incorporate into my day to day routine working in the hospitality industry because that is hard! However, if you have any suggestions of what worked well for you, please throw them my way!

I’m going to make this my year of self care and love. Focusing on myself, making myself happy, cutting out the toxic people (as hard as I find this) and making the best out of myself. So please bare with me if I ever seem distant or stressed or ‘flappy’ This is going to be a shock to the system and something that I will need to adapt too. (trust me, no-one likes a girl when she’s hungry)

So there it is, one of the biggest goals for me broken down. Out there for everyone to read. If you have a similar goal, go get it girl! I know you can do it! I’m looking to restart the gym on Monday (I now cannot back out haha) and want to keep you all in the loop so keep your eyes peeled for me dying at the gym and any food plans or healthy meals I find works for me.

All my love  

Megz

What I learned in 2018

Well here she is, speaking in the third person, re-launching her blog again... What’s different this time you ask? Dedication, motivation, pride, and happiness. This makes me happy. I’ve never been good at speaking about how I feel or what I want to do so to write it all down is perfect for me.  I hope you enjoy reading and exploring it as much as I love writing it.

(sunset in liverpool, little sisters prom & huns day out in manchester)

2018 was a difficult one for me. Materialistically it should have been the best year. I got a promotion I’d longer for at work. I made friends that I now couldn’t live without. I reconnected with old friends. I brought a new car. I went on an amazing summer holiday. I travelled all over the UK. Met new amazing people. Laughed until I nearly wet myself. Became close with people I never imagined I would. I really broke down barriers that were hard for me to speak about many years ago. Made new memories and tried new things. However mentally it was the hardest year of my life. I literally hit rock bottom. But looking at my social media and speaking to my closest friends and family, you’d never have guessed it because of how I chose to portray myself as I was scared of the vulnerability. This scares me that someone could be at their lowest point however you’d never know. Always be kind to people. Everyone has a story you know nothing about.

(family holiday to cyprus 2018)

In 2018 I lost 2 people who I never imagined loosing. I lost my great nanny to dementia. And lost my first puppy Oscar who as weird as it sounds, you think will live forever. I’ve never known how to deal with grief or loss as its something I’ve never really had to deal with. I have in other ways dealt with loosing things, whether its friends or objects however when someone is taken away from you, that you know you wont see or speak to again, it hurts. And I cried like you don’t know what. That much that I think I could have cried myself a river. ‘Don’t get wrapped up in ‘life’ and being in the IT crowd’. Make time for those who matter the most. I wish I could speak to them one last time just to make sure they know how much I loved and valued their presence in my life. Family is so special. Treasure them until your dying day, tell them everyday how much you love them.

(became godmother to a beautiful baby girl, attended the christening & finally brought my own car)